I’m fascinated by the fact that dolphin children name themselves, experimenting with whistles until they choose a particular one they like, and then introducing themselves to their community. When psychoanalysts think about human infant development, they tend to imagine the self coming into being interactively, as caregivers call the child by name and the child sees his/her/their selfhood reflected in others’ minds. Do dolphin parents do something similar without names, I wonder, calling a child “you” and referring to him/her/them as “my youngest,” etc. to others? More generally, how would our psychology and philosophy change, I wonder, if we had the goal of understanding not human development, but the development of self-consciousness more generally, across species? I read recently that Jane Goodall once asked advice of one of the apes who had learned to communicate via keyboard, and got a good recommendation about how to adopt a non-threatening posture when approaching a different primate. What other possibilities for cross-species learning might we discover if we tried? All of it puts me in mind of an Eddie Reader song I used to listen to decades ago, which for me embodies a similar longing for connections yet unmade: “I’ve been searching for the dolphins in the sea/Sometimes I wonder: do you ever think of me.”